10. You spend time thinking about what you’d rather be doing more often than enjoying the moment you’re in.
9. You don’t sleep well, and you know it’s not for medical reasons.
8. You read blogs, books, articles about seizing life and feel like they’re talking to you directly.
7. You find yourself sacrificing happiness for other things on a regular basis.
6. People who really care about you ask how you’re doing and you either lie or talk around the question.
5. You think about how today would be better if you did something different, and then you do the same thing you did yesterday.
4. You don’t feel like you’re working any goals of your own.
3. You spend more time in a day feeling unhappy than anything else (if you’re not sure, make a log for a couple days and see what happens).
2. Your free time doesn’t feel free.
1. You know you’re unhappy.
TL;DR version: Ask yourself this question directly: “Am I doing what’s right for me and my life right now?” If the answer is no, then you’re doing it wrong.
I’ll tell you something you’ve probably heard at least 80,000 times already: life is way too damned short to spend unhappy. Debt will always be over your head, fear will always be the monster just around the corner, habit will always try to lock you in place. But for all the problems there are in this world, every day is a new opportunity to make something happen, to turn it around, to start making your life into what it should be instead of what it is.
At the end of the day, the only person who has to sleep with you is you, and the only one out there you should be worried about accounting to is you. Because if your boss, significant other, parents, God, higher power, or whoever else has higher expectations for you than you have for yourself, then guess what: you’re doing that wrong, too.